वो चंद तस्वीरें और कुछ अनपढ़े से ख़त.....

वो चंद तस्वीरें और कुछ अनपढ़े से ख़त.....

वो चंद तस्वीरें और कुछ अनपढ़े से ख़त....
आज भी तेरी खामोशी का राज़ बयान करते हैं.....

जी चाहता है उन अनपढ़े खतों औरअनदेखी तस्वीरों पर एक नज़र डालूँ.....
मगर दिल सिहर जाता है, जज़्बात उफनने से डरते हैं.....

वो चंद तस्वीरें और कुछ अनपढ़े से ख़त....
आज भी तेरी खामोशी का राज़ बयान करते हैं.....

एक लम्हे की बेकरारी कहीं उम्रभर की बेचैनी न बन जाए,तेरी अदा कहीं हया न बन जाए.....
अब वो राहगीर भी दूसरी डगर से गुज़रते हैं.....


वो चंद तस्वीरें और कुछ अनपढ़े से ख़त....
आज भी तेरी खामोशी का राज़ बयान करते हैं.....

शायद मैं समझा न सकूँगा उन्हें सबब उनकी आवारगी का.....
क्यों वो खोये- खोये से हैं, डरे- सहमे से आहें भरते हैं.....


वो चंद तस्वीरें और कुछ अनपढ़े से ख़त....
आज भी तेरी खामोशी का राज़ बयान करते हैं.....

एक एहसान तू मुझपे कर, खुदा के वास्ते ही सही.....
गर चाहती है सलामती मेरी...
मेरे दर से वो तस्वीरें, वो ख़त लेजा, उन्हें देख अब ये अरमान पल-पल मरते हैं.....

 

वो चंद तस्वीरें और कुछ अनपढ़े से ख़त.....

आज भी तेरी खामोशी का राज़ बयान करते हैं.....

___________________________प्रमोद कुमार सोरौत.

                                     ishq ishq ishq

Inspired by popular response to his earlier piece on platonic and physical love, KRISHA KOPS offers a tripartite definition of love that explains why we look for soulmates

Both platonic as well as the physical part of love — defined as what we encounter on a daily basis — are important components for a normal human being. This was my argument in an article published in these columns, ‘Platonic Love Versus Physical Love’ (October 30, 2011) and a substantial number of seekers responded with their views on the speakingtree.in website. Some of the responses polarised the concept of love either to the plain physical or purely spiritual side; hence I wish to suggest a tripartite definition of love, which I will divide into the aspects of mind, body, and soul.

Social Aspect Of Love

The first component of love, the mind-component, is the social aspect of love. This aspect is a social phenomenon which arises, since the human being is a “social animal” in need of exchange with other members of the community.

The sociologist Niklas Luhmann argued that social systems consist of communication and sense. Inspired by neuroscientist Humberto Maturana, he said that one communicates in order to organise this system.

This means humans exchange expectations in the form of words, which is the substance of their organism. Consequently, love was for Luhmann nothing but a social, encoded system comprised of expectations, promises, and reliability.

It makes sense, especially in the modern world where strongholds of identification crumble down to an utterly confusing heap of sub-domains. Because it is increasingly difficult for the individual to identify himself nowadays, he needs a self-portrayal in order to define his individuality. And this portrayal is not to be found in a society which stipulates a wrong image of individuality, but in the partner who unifies the other person by reflecting him like a mirror.

Although love has, certainly in some aspect — whether we agree with Luhmann or not — a social component, it cannot explain every facet of love. For example: What about mothers who love their babies and teens who love their stars altruistic; and why is love so often connected to the urge of sex?

The Body Component
The body-component can answer these questions. According to scientists, hormones — especially oxytocin — are responsible for what we call “love”. They are supposedly the glue of society.

The body releases oxytocin and other hormones such as dopamine and noradrenaline and hence creates the feeling of “love”, which is associated with monogamy and other binding feelings. These hormones can be released in different situations such as intercourse, stimulation of the nipples (to facilitate breast feeding) and ostensibly even non-physical interactions with other people.

Studies have also shown that there is not always an equal amount of oxytocin present in each human. Orphans often produce less oxytocin and dopamine, which could explain why people with a difficult childhood might find it more difficult to love. Hormones might also explain altruistic love, since the brain rewards the person with happiness-hormones, if he does something good, or in this case, loves someone.

Interestingly, oxytocin is only being produced for a certain time in a relationship; after that the distribution decreases and so too the feeling of monogamy. On average, a partner can evoke these hormones for three to twelve months and maximum three years. Not surprising that married couples (in international comparison) have the tendency to file for a divorce in the fourth year of marriage.

But neither can this component answer the manifold character of love by itself. The social component is certainly crucial as well, otherwise long-term relationships would be even fewer. Still, there are also those cases where we think something totally different must be involved.

Soul, The Third Part
The last component is the soul aspect. Like most matters of belief, there is hardly any empirical evidence and the argument is subject to experience. Maybe this is due to events or encounters with other people that are inexplicable — solely or partly explicable — with help of the first two components. The third part of love is the love for the soul and simultaneously for God, if we believe that everything is part of a whole. It is very much the experience or realisation of God, otherwise he would not be called the god of love so often.

The moment we are able to perceive the soul, and therefore a part of God, we are automatically fulfilled with a feeling of (real) love. Inasmuch it is also a matter of self-love, since the love for another soul is always directed at oneself, since, if we believe in holism and monism, someone else’s soul is always my soul as well.

In the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad, it is written: “A wife loves her husband not for his own sake, dear, but because the Self lives within him.” Of course, if we love ourselves more, it will be automatically easier to love someone else, because the love for my self is in its essence not different to the love of the other self, which is, as we have seen, the own self.

But before we are in such a divine state and capable of omnipotent love, some people will make it easier for us to recognise the Self and hence, God in them. In turn, this explains why we believe in soulmates.

                         my love story
She was 20 years old when I met her. We were at the Temple of Complete Awakening in the highlands of Vietnam. I had just given a course on basic Buddhism, and the abbot of the temple asked, “Thay, why don’t you take a break and stay with us here for a few days before returning to Saigon?” I said, “Sure, why not?”

A New Feeling
I had been in the village that day, helping a group of young people rehearse a play they were going to perform for Tet, the Vietnamese lunar New Year. More than anything else, I wanted to help renew Buddhism in my country, to make it relevant to the needs of the young people. I was 24, full of creative energy, an artist and a poet. It was a time of war with the French, and many people were dying. One dharma brother of mine, Thay Tam Thuong, had just been killed. As I was walking up the steps to return to the temple, I saw a nun standing there, looking out onto the nearby hills. Seeing her standing like that was like a fresh breeze blowing across my face. I had seen many nuns before, but I had never had a feeling like that.

So Close To Nature
For you to understand, I have to share some experiences I’d had many years earlier. When I was nine, I saw on the cover of a magazine, an image of Buddha sitting peacefully on the grass. Right away I knew that I wanted to be peaceful and happy like that. Two years later, when five of us were discussing what we wanted to be when we grew up, my brother Nho said, “I want to become a monk.” It was a novel idea, but I knew I also wanted to become a monk. At least in part, it was because I had seen the image of the Buddha on the magazine. Young people are very open and very impressionable. I hope film and TV producers will take this to heart.

Six months after that, our class went on a field trip to Na Son Mountain. I had heard that a hermit lived there. I didn’t know what a hermit was, but I felt I wanted to see him. I had heard people say that a hermit is someone dedicated to becoming peaceful and happy like a Buddha. We walked six miles to the mountain and then climbed for another hour, but when we arrived, our teachers told us that the hermit wasn’t there.

I was very disappointed. I didn’t understand that hermits do not want to see many people. So when the rest of the class stopped for lunch, I continued uphill, hoping to encounter him on my own.

Suddenly, I heard the sound of water dripping, and I followed that sound until I found a beautiful well nestled among the stones. When I looked down into it, I could see every pebble and every leaf at the bottom. I knelt down and drank the sparkling, clear water, and felt completely fulfilled. It was as if I were meeting the hermit face to face! Then I lay down and fell asleep.

Dream Come True
When I woke up a few minutes later, I didn’t know where I was. Then I remembered my classmates, and as I headed down to join them, a sentence came to my mind, not in Vietnamese, but in French: “J’ai goute l’eau la plus delicieuse du monde.” (“I have tasted the most delicious water in the world.”)

My friends were relieved to see me, but I continued to think only about the hermit and the well. After they returned to playing, I ate my lunch in silence.

My brother was the first to become a monk, and everyone in our family was worried that the life of a monk would be too difficult. So I didn’t tell them about my wish to follow the same path. But the seed within me continued to grow, and four years later my dream was realised. I became a novice monk at Tu Hieu Pagoda, near the Imperial City of Hue, in central Vietnam. From ‘Cultivating the Mind of Love’.

Love Is What

Love is the greatest feeling,

Love is like a play,
Love is what I feel for you,
Each and every day,
Love is like a smile,
Love is like a song,
Love is a great emotion,
That keeps us going strong,
I love you with my heart,
My body and my soul,
I love the way I keep loving,
Like a love I can't control,
So remember when your eyes meet mine,
I love you with all my heart,
And I have poured my entire soul into you,
Right from the very start

Alone........... 

Days go by,and by

and lonely i lie

each day I want to die

I never got to say goodbye

You left me alone without a word

Here alone in this cruel world

Alone I stay by your side

And wish that I was the one who died...........